Via The WaPo:
There is a gap between being edgy and being mean, between caring for someone as best you can and as much as that person truly needs. But how you measure these things depends on how you were brought up — standards and expectations imprinted upon you early, even if you spend the rest of your years making sense of them — and guides how you treat the other people in your life.
For the Zappa children, raised with one foot in the counterculture and one foot in show business, it’s an emotional calculus that became ever more complex after the 2015 death of their mother, the keeper of her late husband’s challenging legacy.